There have been fights over t-shirts, over sites on Facebook or off Facebook, over equal vs. fair, paid vs. free, wives vs. girlfriends, career vs. volunteer, female ffs vs. wives. AND NOW I AM OVER IT! GET OVER IT!
| ~MEMOR CADO FRATER ~|
© Kim Fitzsimmons - Photographer
If you needed a sign to get over it, here it is.
Find a fire wife community that speaks to you. That fills your voids. That supports your soul. It might be THOSE women who will be holding your hand has you try to find life without your husband. Find one that works for you. If it is one based on scripture and faith, so be it. If it is one based on being able to be yourself at all times, even if that means being raunchy and a smidge vulgar, go for it. If it is your local auxiliary, wonderful. If it is that one kindred soul that speaks to you from across the country, or across the ocean, lovely.
But we need to quit tearing each other down. Quit bad mouthing and JUDGING. We all need to stop all of it because, heaven forbid, THIS COULD BE US! And we will NEED every fire wife standing with us because we will be at the weakest point of our life.
|Ryche Guerrero Fine Photography, and friend|
of Anne Sullivan, recent grad of the academy and
former Community Volunteer Firefighter
|Chris Snowball, also a VFF, leaves his wife and their three children, |
would have celebrated his 39th birthday next week
First Officer Jacques Dupuy, for whom I could not find a picture.
|Paramedic Dustin Dagenais, known as Dagger to his friends, was a former player|
in the Ontario Hockey League.
Leaves behind a wife and infant daughter.
|FF/EMT Robert Garner|
|FF/EMT Robert Bebee|
|Capt. Don Filliter of Skead, leaves behind a wife and three kids|
|Capt. EMT Matthew Renaud|
And now, I am asking the entire community of firefighting wives, regardless of career or WFF, FB or not, new or experienced in the fire world, put all of that aside. We lost family yesterday. Now is not a time to fight or bicker or prove yourself. Now is a time for bonding and support and love. This fire world we have found ourselves in is an unpredictable one. They might not come home. And that is when all of the pettiness and minutia fade into the background.
My question to you, why does it take tragedy, for that drama to become unimportant?
Hug your FFs tight. Even you leave on an ugly note. Call and leave a VM or pop into the station, leave a note in his car if he is out on a run. Make friends with the other firewives in your world - whether real or virtual. We truly never know when we may need them.