Mean girls are the reason why I seem to gravitate to the males of our species. Men, if they don't like you, you know it. Women on the other hand, smile to your face and the most horrendous things can spew from their mouths as you are walking away. The two groups I have observed MGs target are either those deemed not worthy of the presence of MGs or those they feel threatened by because they cannot control or manipulate them.
I am used to dealing with them on the high school level. D is our oldest girl, if you can even use the word "old" in any context with kindergartners, and the MGs have already reared their ugly head.
My FF was subbing at the Lower Campus earlier this year. He came home and told me D was definitely her momma's daughter. My first thought was, "Oh, Lord, what did she say?" But, it was actually what he saw at lunch. D, everyday without fail, happily eats lunch with a table full of boys. He was smiling and amazed because he saw me in that. I was not smiling and shook my head because I knew what that meant - the MGs have made her find a way to survive without them - IN KINDERGARTEN!
Earlier in the year, she got into the car, almost distraught, over the Barbie center. I resisted from rolling my eyes and I heard her out. Turns out, there was a Barbie that a MG had deemed was only hers and some kindergarten style threats (a la ~ I won't be your friend and neither will my friends) were made regarding anyone else playing with said Barbie. D got done her work, played in the Barbie center and had the nerve to play with the coveted Barbie. MG told her to leave it alone due to her claim on it, D reminded her she wasn't done with her work and couldn't play with it anyway. MG made the friendship threat and D told her she probably wasn't a very good friend anyway. And there it began, the gauntlet was thrown down.
So far we have attended a few MG birthday parties and D is always amazed at how nice they are to her while she's there. Usually when we leave I check to see if there are any knives stuck where they should not be as we are walking away. I have also observed where the behavior is learned and it makes my heart heavy. At one party I was almost treated as the "help" because I am teacher at the school they pay so much to send their kids to. All I can do is smile, say thank you for their hospitality and say a prayer.
So, day #2 of my 30 Posts in 30 Days is completed without much extra effort. 28 more to go! Happy Friday, everyone. Hug your kids, kiss your FFs and remind your kids to be true to themselves.