Clearly the "us" component of us, can get lost in all that grown up reality.
What if it is compounded with a feeling of isolation, meaning there's no one to help you with the kids to allow you to reconnect with your husband. Grandma and Grandpa are half a country away. You moved away from home in order to find a department that was hiring. You haven't connected with the other wives in your department. But, none-the-less, you are still looking for a way to reach out for your husband because you guys are really all you have in the land if Isolation.
I have to admit, I have become spoiled with a teenager in the house. And I was HORRIBLE at making this happen before. And I know that I can ask for help. I am doing just that. There is a fire wife in need of some creative suggestions.
How in the heck do you do it??
So, here's what I am looking for. I need creative solutions for date nights, when there are little ones and babysitters are usually an issue. Face it, if there's no family, then you need to turn to teenagers. And they are demanding wages to equal the price of the gas in their tank. And as much as the public keeps telling my husband is overpaid, we all know that's just crazy talk. So...no teenage babysitters.
Psssssst - this was good excuse to go through the pictures of my muppets. They are growing up on me soooo fast!
Time on the deck, if it's summer, is usually our Friday night date night if he's home and we can't go out.
ReplyDeleteWhen I had little ones (and now that I have to have a nurse to leave the house) I try to run the kids ragged during the day. Sledding, snow ball fights in the winter, water fights, soccer in the summer, all in the backyard so I don't become exhausted. Then we put them to bed early and have a movie night ourselves. Or we might grab a huge handful of otter pops and just talk. It's a little more dicey now with our little guy because of his medical needs, but we need those times. I think making the time, setting it aside on the calendar, makes it feel a whole lot more like a date and less like an afterthought.
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